โ06-10-2023 01:45 PM
โ06-10-2023 01:45 PM
Hello smart SANE people,
I am going thru a messy legal situation. Doing everything I can to avoid homelessness & starting recovery process of being in DV relationship with ex. for 20 years.
I am 46 now. It is like learning life all over again. It is scary. Many times I crave the abuse, as it is what I knew.
This is difficult mentally to process. To feel safer when I was abused - than now, I am 'free' & scared.
I feel like being alone, gives me panic feelings & I also feel liberated.
That is quick backstory, intro, connection๐
*What I need now - is to find evidence of my address (s) for the last 2 decades, aka 20 years ๐
Or- any evidence eg. Photos, diary (I don't have?)
Real estate is not an option.
My 2 options I can think of are to contact VicRoads & ask for print out of my address for last 20 years. I am worried, all the red tape etc etc
I also thought I could try C'link records. However, the MyGov portal only goes back 2 years I think.
I thought about electoral role, however, I'm not sure how accurate this would be because, maybe I updated my address at election time? Therefore, could be 3 year disparity.
I even thought, maybe the chemist would have file on me? This will be inaccurate too, if they can help.
Any evidence at ALL is helpful.
I would very much like to submit one piece of evidence by today.
I can take my time over next few weeks looking.
I was wondering, if any one out there has any other suggestions, or knows tricks to access 20 year old info??,
I would appreciate your support so much.
There is no wrong suggestionsโค๏ธ - it could trigger memory of other evidence for me.
I will tag ppl I can think of. All people welcome to reply if you can help me to think!
And, if you cannot help, that is ok, I wish you a lovely weekend & good vibes xxooxx
StanD
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If you are overwhelmed yourself, & looking for support, please do not reply. I wish you strength & love & I Ask God to give those who are struggling most rn, to please help them with your love & light & warmth. So be it.
โ06-10-2023 01:58 PM
โ06-10-2023 01:58 PM
..dont you have a lawyer @StanD ? or have you at least spoken to one ?
ok.
โ06-10-2023 02:02 PM
โ06-10-2023 02:02 PM
oh , bank records ,, they always know where you are. did I say tax? passports ? phone bills ? do you have photos of you there ? oh, doctors records, psych records guess @StanD
โ06-10-2023 02:14 PM
โ06-10-2023 02:14 PM
postal records ? anything that needs an address.. things bought online store accounts. receipts, tax records, education records all need address @StanD (roomie)
โ06-10-2023 02:28 PM
โ06-10-2023 02:28 PM
Maybe try you local services department eg. Service Tasmania
โ06-10-2023 02:51 PM
โ06-10-2023 02:51 PM
Hello beautiful woman @StanD just wanted to say you can work with crystals to heal the lingering effects of DV if you want something you can fall back on when you are adjusting to your new life, ruby will remove the trauma, black tourmaline will protect you from unsafe people and a few others which I briefly saw also provided for an easier passage forwards. Its best to put yourself in a "petri dish" I call it and avoid all kinds of potential harm so your brain chemicals can reset themselves and become bathed in a healthier substrate so your brain is no longer addicted to violence. If you adhere to these tips you will be able to find your way forwards, not backwards. You will be ok. Just be brave and keep persisting no matter what! You can do this โค๏ธ
โ06-10-2023 03:59 PM
โ06-10-2023 03:59 PM
Lots of great suggestions from others. My gov has been around a lot longer than 2 years I was on it way back but then the stupid site got some of info wrong and I could not change it and have not been back.
Not sure what you can get re ex ... dont put all eggs in one basket ...put out feelers on other housing programs too. Not sure what area you are.
Hearing you about being locked into trauma bonding, like a stockholm syndrome ... and not knowing what we should do re our sense of masochism ... maybe ... sometimes it can seem funny haha ... when someone gets out the whip ... but only so far ... for me it has been tragedy ... and tied up with early abandonment ... which is something we both share.
You deserve a safe home.
โ06-10-2023 05:35 PM
โ06-10-2023 05:35 PM
@StanD hi hunny i am sorry i am of no help as when i was homeless for 6 weeks i was recovering from a psychosis.... most of that time is a blank for me. i am here for you if you need some one to talk to in the night when you might not be sleeping well.
โ06-10-2023 05:40 PM
โ06-10-2023 05:40 PM
sorry @StanD
I can relate so much to the feelings you described and trauma bond...
As for the rest you're asking, I just don't know, I'm afraid.
I sincerely wish you all the best ๐
I've been homeless... it's no picnic.
โ07-10-2023 05:52 AM
โ07-10-2023 05:52 AM
Hi @StanD , I really hope you can avoid homelessness... ๐ค Well done for exiting a DV situation, that is so difficult.
My only suggestion would be, could you drive around a visit the old places you lived, and use visual memory to get the address? (Or even Google Maps?)
Good luck...
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